Live for Yourself, Love Yourself

Today's blog is as much for my benefit as anyone else's... You know that expression, I think it's from Eleanor Roosevelt that says "No one can make you feel inferior without your permission"? The same goes for feeling good about yourself. I've said before that everything we need is within us, and we need to find it there, instead of somewhere on the outside.

That being said, some of us have a tendency to sacrifice, put ourselves last, and we make ourselves our lowest priority. I know this can happen a lot when we become parents, and our children should for sure become priorities, but we need to not lose sight of our identities beyond our child's parent. As well the same can occurr withing friendships and relationships. And if these end, we lose sight of who we are, as we cease to exist beyond being half a couple.

When we don't make ourselves a priority, we give others permission to do the same. We need to know our value, and accept nothing less. Every individual on this planet has value, and so many of us lose sight of our own, and this is sad. Because if we can't find a way to hold ourselves with high esteem, how can anyone else? (And how can we accept anyone else holding us in that esteem, when we see it as foreign, and therefore not to be trusted.) This brings us back to Eleanor's quote... When we don't feel good about ourselves, we attract others who will reinfoce these thoughts, which perpetuates the bad feeling we're carrying. But if we can begin to heal ourselves, we can start attracting healthier friendships, relationships, etc and this will perpetuate the good feelings we have. And when we feel bad, if we bring about someone good into our life, it's important not to think they're wrong for liking us, but accept that maybe they see something we don't at that time... and strive to see it too.

If we live our life for ourselves, and not constantly sacrificing for others, we do ourselves justice. (A novel concept, I know!) :) We make ourselves a priority, and we do things we want to do. We eat things we want to eat. We hold ourselves as important in our life, and we project that to the world. And don't let the dark voice in your head fool you: you ARE important. So treat yourself as such.

Sending a ton of love your way (and some love to help you love yourself too!)
Seena Beana xoxo